the best advice for single women this winter season

The best advice for single women this winter season.

     It’s an unseasonably cold 25 degrees outside, snowing and my lawn is filled with crisp white snow.  A beautiful view outside, with a stillness that comes with falling snow. The perfect day to spend in pajamas and snuggle under a fluffy blanket watching a good movie, reading a book or looking on Pinterest. Also, perfect to cuddle up with my hubby in bed, too.
    There is something about the late fall, winter months and pending holidays that get people in the mood for “love”. They look for someone to spend these cold winter nights with, share in the holiday festivities and keep each other company. AKA cuffing season and/or Netflix and chill season (yes, I’m going there). Cuffing season is when people who are single or maybe serial daters desire to be in a relationship with someone for the late fall winter season. That is the loose definition, there are some definitions with more vulgar terms and I won’t repeat those on my blog. I won’t define Netflix and chill, I think you might know what it means (if not google it).
    If you are a single woman who is lonely, sad, wants to be with someone for the holidays or even thinking about cuffing or Netflix and chilling with a man, I pray you take your time and think things through before you make a life altering decision. I speak the truth with grace and love. Much more goes on inside your brain and body than you realize when you cuff or Netflix and chill with someone. I learned a lot from the women I helped, educated and loved on through their life altering decisions and consequences, while working 6 years in a women’s ministry.
    We have a hormone, Oxytocin, and one of its jobs is to help us bond and build trust with others. It’s really active when a woman and man are engaged in sexual intercourse causing a woman to desire and bond with that man more. However, oxytocin has no values, logic or knows right from wrong. It is doing its job and will help a woman to build trust and bond to any man. The more a woman is with the man the stronger the bond and “trust”.
    This bond is a physical bond and if broken it will literally and physically hurt. The broken bond, from a break – up for example, can cause depression, anxiety, insomnia, sadness, loss of appetite and other toxic and negative emotions and feelings. It will take time, but the woman will eventually feel better. Especially is she doesn’t bond with another man soon after, she has a group of positive people to help her, stays in prayer, talk to a professional, etc.
     Be careful who you touch or let touch you and who you get close to. You don’t want to bond with a toxic person. If you want a relationship with someone it takes time. Get to know the person, observe their characteristics, guard your heart. More of this and more about love and relationships in my soon to be published book. Read my blog post, healthy relationships for more tips.
             Here’s a list of things to do to this season (to keep you out of the cuffing zone):

1. Read the Bible daily.
2. Trust and Obey God’s word.
3. Pray the scriptures. When you read the Bible write down scriptures that resonate with you at the moment. Pray out loud those scriptures over your life. It causes a shift in the atmosphere.
4. Read books. Reading causes us to think deeper.
5. Write in a journal daily (Bible verses, your thoughts, prayers, etc.).
6. Start a hobby.
7. Join a gym/Exercise.
8. Start on that goal or dream you always wanted to do.
9. Hang out with friends who are supportive.
10. Pray again.
11. Go outside and hike or pick up a sport.
12. Start a blog, vlog or podcast. (click for resources on starting a blog)
13. Start writing a book.
14. Volunteer.
15. Join a small group at church – most have a singles group and I know of a few people who have met their husbands there!
16. Cook a new recipe or go to a new restaurant.

    Hey ladies, we are fine china. Sister’s in Christ we are God’s masterpiece, we are precious in His sight. We all are important and shouldn’t settle for less.
    For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephesians 2:10 NLT
   Promise me, O women of Jerusalem,
    by the gazelles and wild deer,
    not to awaken love until the time is right.  Song of Solomon 2:7 NLT
    Love takes time. Take your time.
    Thanks for reading. Please share this with a family member or friend who may need this. Join the fabulous faith – filled woman list for blog updates and deals. Stay warm for those of you experiencing these frigid temps!
 Love ya!
Christina