How to be a good friend.
A few years ago, I was going through a rough time in my life. This was from a culmination of things, including some sinful choices on my behalf. I won’t list my sin resume (I took that phrase from Priscilla Shirer) and you don't need to either. What I was doing was causing a war inside of me. I had no peace. I was grieving the Holy Spirit and felt his sorrow, a heaviness in my spirit. I knew what I was doing was wrong, but it was hard to stop by myself. I needed help.
I tried to help myself and not tell anyone what I was doing, but one day when I was in the presence of my good friend, who is a strong Christian woman, I was compelled to tell her what I was doing. The Spirit was leading me to tell her, he knew I needed her. I followed the Spirit’s lead and poured my heart out to her. Told her what I was doing and how I was feeling.
What was her response?
We are meant to be in relationships with others and to help each other out of their sin. This is a crucial aspect in a true friendship. We can’t navigate this life alone. God knows that, too. We are to help other Christians live life honoring and glorifying God.
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ. Galatians 6:1-2 NLT
And you must show mercy to those whose faith is wavering. Rescue others by snatching them from the flames of judgment. Show mercy to still others, but do so with great caution, hating the sins that contaminate their lives. Jude 1:22-23 NLT
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. James 5:16 NLT
Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many. Hebrews 12:15 NLT
If we don’t apply these verses to our friendships, some serious disaster and/ or consequences can befall our friends and the people in their lives. Remember our choices affect many people, not just ourselves.
Here’s an example:
You and another person are sitting on a bench overlooking a beautiful view off a mountain. Along comes a friend, who is blind, she is looking for you and can’t find her way. She walks very close to the edge, you want to grab her before she falls, but the person sitting next to you stops you.
“Let her do what she wants. It’s her life.” The other person says to you.
“Yes, but she’s blind and can’t see where she is going. I’m her friend and I need to warn her of the danger of falling off the cliff.”
“Yolo. Why are you judging her?” The person asks.
“What? How is that judging? I love her and want what’s best for her,” you answer.
“Maybe she needs to be hurt, so she won’t do it again.”
“If she falls off a cliff she will be seriously hurt or may die. I would want her to help me if I was close to a cliff,” you say.
You jump off the bench and run over to your friend just as she was about to step off the ledge. You saved her life and she is forever grateful for you. She knows not to go out there alone ever again.
That story is a little far - fetched but you get the point. We aren’t being good, loving and helpful friends when we let our friends continue down the wrong path. On the other hand, we need to be able to receive help and correction from our friends, and not be offended.
People who accept discipline are on the pathway to life,
but those who ignore correction will go astray. Proverbs 10:17 NLT
Being a good friend involves many aspects, but it comes down to one basic thing. Loving each other like Jesus loves us.
Dear Lord, I pray that we will hide your word in our hearts, so we won’t sin against you. Thank you for the act of friendships and all the joy and help it brings. Thank you for being our friend. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.
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Fasting with focus.
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I gained 7 pounds during the Christmas holiday time. From eating the cookies I baked and all the delicious party food that comes with this wonderful celebration of our Savior Jesus Christ, it should be no surprise to me. But it was ☹.
However, I wasn’t too upset because every January my family and I usually do some type of fasting. We fast for better focus on God and his plans for us and also to purify and cleanse our bodies and lives of unwanted impurities. There are many things that we digest and do, physically and mentally, that are wreaking us inside and out. Some of these things become habits that are harmful to us, physical and spiritual. A good reset by fasting a couple of months or so, can help us to focus back on God and the plans and purposes he has for us.
This year we did something different for the food fast – we did a Paleo style fast. We usually do a Daniels fast, but after seeing a post for the book: The 30 – day Thyroid Reset Plan: Disarming the 7 Hidden Triggers That are Keeping You Sick by Dr. Becky Campbell it peaked my interest. I checked the book out from my local library, read it in one day and was eager to reset my body (and mind). Side note: this is not a Christian book, when she talks about meditation and other “mindful” things, replace it with God’s truth found in the scriptures and prayer.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you. Philippians 4:8-9 NLT
This book is very informative, and I recommend it, even if you don’t have thyroid problems. I lost 13 pounds and feel wonderful. My craving for junk is gone, replaced with a stronger craving that only God can fill.
When we fast, we want to be focused on God first. Fasting without focus is just a diet (author unknown of that quote). In addition to fasting from certain foods, its good to fast from certain activities that takes your focus away from God. One of the things I fasted from was social media. Social media is one of the biggest things that have taken my time, that I will never get back, from God and other priorities.
In addition to fasting is to pray. Powerful praying from the scriptures. Focused scripture prayers have helped me immensely. They help us to worship and praise our holy God. They remind us of our blessings and blesses us as well. They help us to grow deeper with the Holy Spirit and gives us clarity of thought. I was gifted and blessed with the book, Praying With Confidence. 31 Days of Powerful Moments with God by Jeff Leake, during my fast. This book has transformed my prayer life for the better! I have seen miracles and blessings while praying these prayers. (I recommend purchasing this book to use all the time!)
Fasting is a form of worship to God. It’s not for the whole world to know that we are fasting. It’s a humbling experience. We aren’t the focus of a fast, God is the focus.
“And when you fast, don’t make it obvious, as the hypocrites do, for they try to look miserable and disheveled so people will admire them for their fasting. I tell you the truth, that is the only reward they will ever get. But when you fast, comb your hair and wash your face. Then no one will notice that you are fasting, except your Father, who knows what you do in private. And your Father, who sees everything, will reward you. Matthew 6:16-18 NLT
There is so much gained from fasting, I’m just covering the tip of the ice berg. Every one’s fasting experience is different. There is no right or wrong thing to fast from, it’s what the thing or food, or both that is taking your focus from God.
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Is it true love? Take the true love quiz!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
True Love Quiz
Directions: Read each question and answer Yes or No. Give 2 points for every yes answer. Subtract 1 point for each no answer. Add and/ or subtract points to find out if this is true love.
9-12 points = It’s strong like leading to true love!
5-8 points = You need to rethink this relationship.
0-4 points = Definitely not true love. Toxic relationship. Break up now.
Do those quiz questions sound familiar to you? Where is that found? In the love chapter of the Bible, 1 Corinthians 13! You are correct.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthian 13: 4-7 NLT
The true love quiz is just a fun thing to do. It’s not a real quiz that can tell us if we have definitely found true love. However, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is how Jesus love is for us and how we should truly love others. These scriptures are a guide for how we are to love others. I say guide because we are imperfect people and we may do some of the negative or opposite things of love (I know I have) to our loved ones. When we do those negative things, we need to check ourselves and get back on the right path of true love. We need to stay mindful of how we love others.
Although that quiz is for fun, there is truth in it. If you took the quiz and realized that you answered many no’s, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. A relationship that adds value to our lives, should be positive and life affirming; not negative and draining. A good relationship is healthy, if it’s not healthy than it’s not going the way God created relationships.
Do you want to find true love? Jesus’ love is the ultimate true love. He is ready to fill your heart, body, soul and spirit with his unfailing love. All you need to do is trust and believe that Jesus is Lord. No one can truly love the way Jesus loves us. Thank you, Jesus for your true unfailing love!
Happy Valentine’s day! May you experience the grace, mercy, comfort, peace and ultimate true love of Jesus now and forever. Amen.
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Christina Leeman MPH, CHES, writer and health educator, emboldens women to be the She Who Honors God with her all - body, thoughts, words, actions.
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